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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In all this, I wonder what DH's opinion is. [b]It doesn't sound like OP is ever going back to work, and taking time to decompress is just a way of saying she's done. [/b]Has DH actually discussed this with his mom and she's being the bad guy for him? Where does their retirement savings stand? 529s? And God forbid if the ILs helped fund 529s or anything else for them if now DIL is not working.

Is it any of MIL's business? No. But there is basically some information missing here.[/quote]
I agree. Lol @ OP calling it "Decompressing" and not working "right now". She can't even own her situation and tries to minimize it.

Also to point out: She worked all the time and values that in a person so I imagine [b]my choosing not to work is foreign and lazy for her to comprehend.[/b]

This is really it. She just cant comprehend it. [/quote]

I think you're reading a lot into this situation. She can't even "own" her situation! Why does anyone need to? LIVE AND LET LIVE BAYBEEEEEEE[/quote]
She literally stewed about this and then sent a nasty email to MIL LOL
Shes very insecure about it. Women who are happy with their choices dont do that. Dont feel the need to do that. Shes lying to herself and an anon forum even in her OP. It's really sad, because she has a great situation IMO. [/quote]

Strange take. It’s not normal to call your dil a sad sack, even if she were one. Whether op is insecure or not doesn’t change the fact it was a nasty comment to make.[/quote]

OP's MIL has contempt for her and feels comfortable expressing that openly and directly.

OP wants MIL to be someone who cares about her and her feelings. MIL is not and never will be that person.

$ is a separate issue. It is an extremely derogatory way to describe how you see a close family member and to state it in front of others, to your face, says a LOT about MIL.

[b]I would limit time with the kids, they don't need that kind of role model or to be teed up to be excoriated if they don't meet her approval.[/b] [/quote]

This would make you a terrible person. Your rationale is flimsy at best -- you want to use your kids as a weapon to punish your MIL with because you'd be butt hurt over a valid criticism. You really must suck as a parent if this is your thought process.[/quote]

DP. It was stressful for us grandkids to be around our MIL when she would denigrate our mother with her snide remarks. Children who love their mother will grow to resent a grandparent that makes them feel bad. [/quote]

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