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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If your DH is making so much money OP, I would hire a sitter to help out while he is gone and when he first gets back. And I would be totally unapologetic about hiring as much help as needed so I’m not burnt out while he is gone.
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This.  Door dash dinners for the first few days after his anticipated return, send laundry out, hire a sitter for a few afternoons.

And hire a dog walker permanently.  That’s such an easy thing to take off your plate.  No reason you should be doing 100 percent of the default parenting and pet care when the both of you are making good money.[/quote]

I think this is a good point in general beyond just girls/guys trips. I’ve found that anytime DH and I get into a bean counting or resentful place over division of labor it’s because we’re trying to allocate more than 2 people can realistically get done without burn out.

Obviously this is a harder situation when there isn’t much disposable income. But when you have a high earner working long hours, then you have to factor in some outsourcing as an expense that allows for the high earner to work those hours.

I totally send out laundry, order take out, plan a sitter, etc. when we reach a threshold of feeling unable to keep up. Way cheaper than divorce and better for our mental health than sniping at each other over who is helping with what.

[b]That said heavy drinking is a huge turn off for me. My DH is really fit and into healthy eating. We both are light drinkers. An occasional hangover wouldn’t necessarily concern me, but I’m curious is OP’s husband has a history of over imbibing or having unhealthy habits that are annoying[/b]. [/quote]

Wondering about this also. People with big jobs who are super stressed can sometimes lean a little too hard into drugs/alcohol. If being hungover for multiple days (or really at all... this guy has three kids) is a thing, I understand completely the resentment. [/quote]

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