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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here with an update: I need to thank those PPs who said "they will bail because your ex has more kids". You were completely right. They have been financially supporting his a$$. And not just a check here or there. He can't even cover his mortgage, he has to have his elderly parents do it for him. They reached out to me after NYE, apologized profusely, said things were really awkward and that at most they can send an occasional gift card to my DS. We have figured out his financial aid, he is all set, he is going to school of his dreams, thank you 529 plan and scholarships. Lesson learned, DCUM - do not trust promises. And dear grandparents, instead of grand gestures, put your money where your mouth is. Open up a savings account or contribute to the 529 plan. [/quote]

I am sorry OP.What they did was cruel. It's very cruel because you might have put more money in the 529 which might have grown by leaps and bounds by now. I learned younger not to trust people promising money. We didn't have a wedding to save money and drama. My parents promised to pay for some things in our home and our honeymoon and we did all sorts of things to thank them. We ended up paying for the honeymoon and we were not given money for the home. It was a process where my mother had to come with me, see the furniture, give a massive guilt trip, decide if she would buy, come see it once it was there and then remind me over and over of her generosity. We bailed on a huge portion of what was offered because it was less exhausting to just earn the money myself. I knew when she made grandiose promises about college funding to ignore it and I am glad I did.[/quote]

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