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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here's the issue:

Sure, let's assume that attractive moneyed men really would be totally satisfied by a "kind", attractive woman who is available for s*x.  The men in my circles are not wholly satisfied by that list, but it gets repeated over and over on dcum by some male posters, so let's assume that's what 99% of men are looking for.

(I put "kind" in quotes, because let's be honest that when this kind of men say they want someone "kind" they don't actually just mean "nice".  They want someone who kindly handles all the day to day crap without complaining. They don't mean a woman who is literally "kind").

So they find a woman who meets those needs, who is with a guy who places no value on any thing beyond the above three prongs. So what does that say about a woman who is attracted to the kind of man who places no value on anything but those three prongs?  You can posit a ton  of things about her, none of which are super great character features in a woman.

So now, we know we have a man who places no value on anything beyond three things (s*x, looks, "kindness"), and we have a flawed woman who is attracted to this kind of man. So circularly, what kind of man  - who already only wants three assets in a woman - and also is happy being with the kind of flawed woman who wants to be with this kind of man?

Totally circular, and self feeding cycle - that neither are my kind of people. Sorry.

(But again, i said above, lots of driven, well educated, women who are yoga instructors. I think the scenario i'm describing is about women who are "only" yoga instructors and don't have the other stuff in their lives). [/quote]

So are you saying that men mating with women they are attracted to and those women being attracted to those men is a bad thing?

Maybe it is the circles I travel in, but directionally this is correct though not to the caricature extreme portrayed in this thread. The pair off is something like he’s very well credentialed (likely a graduate degree of some sort) and extremely economically successful in his field. She has a bachelors degree is well put together and stays home and runs a tight ship at home.  Sure, I’m guessing many would accuse those women of being uninteresting or whatever, but, let’s get real. How many married couples  with children in their forties are actually interesting?

I know about a dozen guys in my circle that are making seven figures and all but one fits the mold I described above. The outlier has a more educated wife and she’s earning 20% of what he makes.  So is that really all that different from him marrying a yoga instructor or whatever?

Here’s the deal:  the stay at home wife is a huge asset to a man’s career.   I just think society has the causation reversed. It isn’t that moneyed, attractive men (whatever that means) desire a kind, attractive wife that will handle the day to day at home. It is that men that are married to kind wives that will handle the day to day at home are better positioned to be extremely successful in their career.  I KNOW that’s been the case for me and a bunch of guys I know.  I also posted in the divorce/asset split thread that the guy definitely owes his wife a 50/50 split for that reason. [/quote]

It's me; I'm the size zero, BFA educated, stay at home mom of three, while my DH makes a lot of money for us 😎 And yes, I have a 200hr Yoga Teacher certificate too.[/quote]

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