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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm happy for a friend that after 7 years of infertility, over 10 rounds of IVF with and without donor eggs and a surrogate they finally have a baby but I'm pretty sure it's amounted to 200K or more for a baby that isn't biologically hers. Would you do the same?

I feel like at somepoint I would pursue adoption because it's essentially the same. (Fwiw I'm currently undergoing IVF and am already hesitant to spend the cost on it.)[/quote]

Adoption isn’t the same at all. Potential for kid to have trauma from separation, drug/alcohol exposure during pregnancy, and issues with birth family. [/quote]

[b]Every newborn taken from her mother is traumatized[/b], even if the separation results in a better situation. It’s baffling that this isn’t common sense.[/quote]

This is absolutely untrue. Healthy attachment is vital to a child's lifelong well-being. You seem to understand this. As long as a caregiver (whomever!) is responsive to the child, it's psychosocial needs will be met. There is one particular study (and I'm trying to remember the scholar's name...Ainsworth?) that delves into this issue and how even communal parenting can facilitate strong bonds and healthy development. You are patently wrong, PP.[/quote]

No, it's not true.  Some have adoption issues, some don't.  Mine do not.  Some of it is kids have issues due to maternal drug/alcohol use or bio family mental health/genetics.  [/quote]

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