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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My ILs just showed up 9 hours early. They were supposed to arrive “a little before dinner time tonight,” so we were thinking around 5 p.m. DH and I are both working from home today, with lots of meetings. We were each going to take care of a few last-minute things around lunch time, like putting sheets on the guest bed and laying out tables. The house is fully cleaned, but we were finishing up laundry and that includes the guest sheets which are currently in the dryer. So rude for them to show up hours early, mumbling about how they were worried about traffic.

We were also planning on each eating some leftovers for lunch. The fridge was fully cleaned yesterday, and we do have extra food for sandwiches and stuff, but we weren’t going to produce a full lunch.

I just took a bagel and coffee upstairs and shut the door. I am not dealing with them until 5 p.m. as planned. I’ll pick up the kids a little early from the child care center (after care center that is open on school breaks) so that they can see the grandparents a little earlier, but not until after my final call, which ends at 3:30. I’m not dealing with them a minute more than I have to. So rude. [/quote]

My ILs did this a few years back. It was so incredibly inconsiderate. They knocked on the door hours early while I was still in my PJs. My husband very politely asked them to go out and get brunch, and he gave them several local options and told them he'd pay the bill for brunch, but that we simply were not ready for them and could not invite them in right at that moment.
My ILs were furious. Furious. Angry beyond anything you can possibly imagine, and completely out of proportion to our "crime." 
They told DH that if it had been MY parents arriving so early, I would have invited them in and fed them breakfast. They still have not gotten over this "snub" as they put it.
Tread carefully, OP. I don't regret it, but my ILs made me pay for MY rudeness by not inviting them into my not-ready house. Oh, and our child was about 18 months old, not dressed, not fed, WTF? But I'm the bad guy!?!?
Does an invitation for XX time mean nothing? We'd invited them for lunch!! 12 noon, not 8 a.m.!!! [/quote]

Imho a good compromise would be for your DH to take them to brunch and for you to stay home and carry on with your day.
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