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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think what can truly help working parents is a 6 hr day on-site and then ability to log in for 2 hrs from home. This can curtail so much anxiety around pick ups, getting dinner on the table etc.

My kids were 9 when COVID hit and they are 13 now, DH and I both WFH for last 4 yrs and we have zero stress levels in terms of pickups, dinner etc. I do go in 1-2 days/week but I have the option to go in for 5-6 hrs and then resume work when I reach home.

IMO not needing to spend 8hrs+commute time is a game changer.[/quote]

I don't know about this, my manager is willing to give that flexibility (which I appreciate! He's really trying!), but if you have a very long commute it doesn't make up for the fact that the 3 hours round trip you lose comes from somewhere. Either you can't pick up kids, or you make up work when you're home together in the evening, or you don't sleep.

Long commutes are just really hard, and no, some of us can't move closer for family/dual career/financial reasons (it's not that we've "prioritized a McMansion in the exurbs" or whatever the DCUM straw man is). It was so great to live without them, or at least minimize them for a while.[/quote]

I completely understand, I am the PP who posted the 5-6hr day post above. I guess it works for me because I live 25 minutes from my office, but I can understand how 3 hrs of commute can throw a wrench in this arrangement.[/quote]

I also had a 3-4 hour commute total for four years on public transportation (CT to NY; multiple trains, etc.) while working for a company that required five days in office. It sucks the life out of you but if you knew about the commute before taking the job than you knew what you were signing up for. You may need to make other sacrifices (career trajectory or pay) to move to a remote or hybrid role. I did this after i had my first kid at 31 and it’s worked out well. My career may have grown more had i stayed but i’ll never know for sure and being available to my three kids by being in a remote role is a priority for me.[/quote]

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