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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"For god's sakes teach them how to do laundry and have basic pride in their personal cleanliness. I can't tell you how many times some kid walks into my office stinking to high heaven and wearing clothes that look like they haven't been washed for weeks. Now I would normally think perhaps they struggle financially but when they whip out their iphone 14 or 15 and talk to with me airpods in, it makes me think they probably can afford to do laundry. They just don't and/or they don't know how."

As a parent of a child who has struggled mightily with depression since they started college, please know that lack of personal hygiene is often sign of a mental health issue.  As a parent, I implore you to ask these students if they are okay and, if necessary, help them reach out to mental health services (simply telling them such services are available is of no use to a young person struggling with severe depression).[/quote]

DP: I'm sorry to hear about your student's struggles.  Just so you know--as a prof, we are given orientations on recognizing mental health concerns and have a protocol for recommending services.  I generally include the service information in my syllabus, actively mention it in my class at some point including mentioning the kinds of things you might be feeling or experiencing that might want you to seek services (I try to lower the bar for what would encourage people to seek services--for instance, saying even if you find you're feeling just a little stressed about managing your workload, or are having trouble sleeping, the services can help).  I also encourage people to recommend services to their friends, or to let them know if they have a concern about someone.  If I see a flag (usually a change in behavior, hygiene, or emotional reactivity) I try and reach out to the student.  If a student is not showing up to class, I flag them and someone from student support services reaches out to them and/or does an in-person wellness check.  I would say this is standard practice for the professors I know.  In larger classes it's more difficult  of course to be sensitive to changes/nuances.[/quote]

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