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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a mom of older kids, I'm confused why everyone things the pandemic told them something new. Yes the pandemic sucked but we weren't supported before the pandemic either. [/quote]

Yes, thank you, I was coming to post this. All of these things were issues before the pandemic and they are issues after.

I'm not sure why everyone blames the pandemic for everything that's wrong with life. [/quote]

Is "everyone" blaming the pandemic for "everything" that is wrong with life? Is that something people are doing in this thread? Examples please.[/quote]

I'm not discounting that Covid was hard. It was, and it was harder for some than others. But raising kids and balancing family needs vs work etc was always hard pre Covid and continued to be hard today. So it's hard to tease out what was caused by Covid and what is just caused by life. And now Covid shutdown was a few years in the past, I think it's time to really start examining factors other than Covid if people are currently suffering. [/quote]

What's happening with OP and others who feel similarly is that their mental health has not recovered from Covid.  Covid affected all of our mental health.  Most have rebounded in that regard.  For those who haven't, it's not that they had it the hardest during covid; it's more likely that their mental health was poorer to begin with or their brains were literally less well calibrated to handle it and bounce back.  It tracks with what OP is saying about having unsupportive parents -- that kind of childhood affects how your brain develops.  The inertia, lethargy, indecision, anxiousness, and hopelessness she is describing...she hasn't lost her groove or in a funk because she had no childcare for X amount of months; her mental health is suffering, and that does, in a way, track back to Covid.  [/quote]

Yes and public health messaging convinced a lot of people (not just OP) that they needed to isolate so much longer than they did. By OP's own admission they holed up for 2 years. We started seeing friends and family outdoors almost immediately and indoors by that winter when outdoors wasn't a good option any more. We all knew we were taking a risk but all decided it was worth it. DH and I got vaccinated pretty early in 2021 because we found out about a place giving out doses to anyone at the end of the night. We hopped a plane to Florida with our kids for spring break and went to Universal (when it was still masked for everyone) and had a marvelous. I literally cried tears of joy to be on that trip and while obviously there were moments of Covid stress after that, it was the turning point for me that we had made it through the worse and were NOT going back to the way things were before. My kids also went to hybrid school that spring and I saw their prior personalities snap right back. By Fall of 2021 anyone who wanted in person school/daycare could have it. [/quote]

I don’t think public messaging suggested that we should isolate for 2 years at all.

We were told we could be outside safely in 2020. Our family were very good maskers inside and out.

Some people who were probably introverts or have anxiety stayed to themselves much longer than they needed to.[/quote]

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