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[quote=Anonymous]My kids father and I are married.  We expect our kids to let us know when they’re coming home with people.  Just like I let my husband know if I’m having  friends over and he does the same. Common courtesy to the people you share a home with.

And for what it’s worth, my kids know, and I mean really know that they are always my top priority. For my spouse, over my job, over my friends, over everything.  And at the same time, they know that they are expected to behave in a civil, respectable way. In our case, that includes all of us, letting each other know if we are having guests to the house, and if my kid who doesn’t live at home anymore is coming by, at least to text ahead. This is really not a big deal. It’s the basic civility we have for the people who share a home.

Honestly, I would think that your kids would want you to be in a solid, happy relationship in which your partner feels comfortable. I would feel completely weirded out by showing up unannounced to our house, where someone lived two wasn’t my parent or sibling, it would just seem super rude and weird, even if it was the house I grew up in.

Having read your various responses, I actually think your girlfriend will be far better off without you.  Have you even thought to ask your kids what they think? God I would hate to think of either of my parents losing a girlfriend or a boyfriend and potential partner because they didn’t want me to call ahead before coming home. Honestly, I would just think my parent was looking for an excuse to break up our relationship.  [/quote]

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