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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, what you have to understand if you are trying to arrange playdates with families with 2-3 kids, is that they do not care about having the playdate.  It's nothing against your kid or you, it's just that they don't care/[b]the playdate is an inconvenience.[/b]  Most kids do fewer playdates these days than you did when you were a child.  They are busy with sports, lessons, tutors, etc.  And both parents work.  They don't have time and they don't need the playdate because their kids have each other (and soccer practice, and piano lesson, etc).  Playdates will only occur if it really works for them, and if you put a ton of restrictions on it, then it doesn't work.  Sign your only child up for more activities.  Meeting at the park won't work much longer anyway as they get too old.    [/quote]

This. Look, OP. What you are asking for is actually logistically difficult! Say I have three children and your child wants 1:1 with my child, at my house. So I have to find a time when your child are is available, and when my child is at home with a parent to supervise, and I also have to figure out playdates or other activities for my other children because your child doesn't like them to join. If the other children are on playdates at other houses, figuring out how to drop them off and pick them up while also supervising your child in our home can be a puzzle. And if I can't figure out two additional simultaneous playdates or they fall through, then my other children will be home and are likely to feel left out and cause conflict and pester me the whole time. Maybe they shouldn't, but realistically, they do. And frankly, I would prefer for my kids to have the experience of a multi-age playdate rather than isolating them during the playdate. I think multi-age play is beneficial, so I see no reason to exclude them.

Your child is not so desirable that playing with her 1:1 is worth me jumping through all of these hoops! It's far, far easier to invite someone who plays well with others.[/quote]

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