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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did you ever feel bad for the spouse (and/or kids)?  How did you reconcile entering someone else’s family like that.

Did you wish he/she would divorce or die so in your mind you could end up with them?

I’ve heard some really awful things from OW so just wondering anonymously what let you cross that line?

I got hit in a lot by married co-workers and others and my mind always went to their wife.  I never wanted to do that to another woman, even ones I didn’t know. If things got heated, I’d distance and put up a wall.  Things just don’t happen….[/quote]

Before I found out I had been cheated on by my now ex-husband, cheating just wasn’t in my orbit.  I didn’t think about it, or worry about it, and I had never cheated and never had been cheated on previously (to my knowledge).  Being cheated on completely destroyed my ability to trust and also destroyed my faith in marriage.

[b]I was single for a few years after marriage and had a very short “affair” with a married man - it was really just a fling.  [/b]A very broken part of me was validated in this, that I could assist in the destruction of a marriage and that indeed married men can’t be trusted to be faithful.  I spoke with the guy about six months after we’d split, and he’d just been kicked out of his house for cheating (with someone else).  He was a chronic cheater.

I felt very bad for his spouse, who seemed great by his account.  He was a Peter Pan type and seemed like someone who’d be a terrible husband. They had two teen girls and I felt sad for them, too.  At no point did I ever want to have an actual relationship with him.

I still feel a lot of guilt for doing that.  [/quote]

My God this is unhealthy… why???  Just why???[/quote]

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