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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Absolutely. He's an adult. You're having a hard time letting go but he needs to figure out independence and relationships and you need to give him the space to do it. You don't have to let her stay overnight at your house (your rules and all) but you will push him away if you try to forbid him to go to hers. I've seen this dynamic play out a few times u and it can be really damaging to your relationship with him. You are basically saying "I don't trust you to make decisions in your own life". [/quote]

I'm basically saying, I don't support acting like a $lut. He doesn't need to sleep over. I didn't do that stuff.[/quote]

You have spent 21 years raising him with your morals, values, principles, and ethics. He is choosing differently from how you would choose.

Do you think that your enforcement of "rules" for a 21-year-old man will make any difference whatsoever?

Are you more interested in creating and enforcing rules for your adult child than you are in having a relationship with him?[/quote]

I'm not going to just sit back and be okay with poor choices because I am scared of his reaction. And yes he is livid. [/quote]

You should be scared of his reaction. He’s an adult & has the power to never speak to you again if you are awful.[/quote]

Lol ok. I pay his bills. [/quote]

Alright.  Let him pay his own bills, and you stay out of his sex life.[/quote]

+1[/quote]

+2. But if my parents tried to control or punish me like this (like withholding inheritance and support they would have given me if I complied with them), we wouldn't really have a relationship. Enjoy the SM posts of your grandchildren! You won't be seeing them in person.

Two can play at this game. [/quote]

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