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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I received an (anonymous) email telling me my daughter is a mean girl. That she is gossipy, exclusionary and forces others to ostracize people she does not like. I am pretty sure the email was written by a peer based on the writing style and language.

How would you handle this?  I don’t even know if this is real and[b] telling my daughter about it could upset her. [/b] I do have not an inclination this is true, though I do know my daughter is popular and gets frustrated that there is an expectation she is everyone’s friend. But it’s also unsettling to get an email like this and the tenor of the email seemed sad and frustrated more than anything else, which makes my worry about the sender and what motivated this. [/quote]

Sweet baby Jesus.  You're the problem here.  This is the reason she's a mean girl.  "you don't want to upset her".  [/quote]

I’d be upset if I got an anonymous letter with outlandish accusations that included a threat but no substantive facts to support the outlandish accusations. Who wouldn’t be upset?[/quote]

These are not “outlandish accusations.” This is behavior that can be found in most middle and high schools to some degree or another.

Also, it’s not a criminal indictment. What do you expect this person to do, get video footage of the bullying for you? Just because someone doesn’t have a CSI file on an event doesn’t mean they are lying about it. Most people do not walk around collecting hard evidence of every crappy thing someone does.[/quote]

There was literally no evidence included. And by evidence I mean a narrative describing what OPs daughter did, when, who, etc. Literally [i]anything[/i] to justify the accusations. As far as we know, there is absolutely nothing that resembles a fact for OP to even look into.

So yes, I’d be upset if I got an anonymous email accusing me of being a bully without any explanation of why the accusations were leveled, and including a threat. Who wouldn’t be upset? That is really disturbing.

That email reads like the ranting of an unhinged adult who is too enmeshed with her 17-year-old child. It has vibes like these cases:

https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/cheer-mom-accused-sending-anonymous-texts-parents-girls-behavior-found-rcna21649

https://www.cbsnews.com/sanfrancisco/news/bay-area-mom-who-cyberbullied-daughters-dates-gets-3-years-in-federal-prison/

Normal parents don’t do stuff like this, though apparently you and other PPs think this behavior is fine. To be clear, though, it is not remotely fine.

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Normal parents of normal kids don’t get anonymous emails alleging bullying occurred.[/quote]

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