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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Always feel relieved that my husband and I both agreed to get fixed when we had our last kid. No matter what happens our kids will not be second fiddle.[/quote]

My spouse and I agree our two kids are the only ones we want.  And it’s laughable to us the men that start an entirely family once their first set of kids reach college.  Ohmygod hell no!  We are 3 years to empty nest and have all kinds of trips and fun plans lined up.  He also got a vasectomy.

Blended family drama - no thanks.  And having to go back to preschool, and teacher conferences and kids sports and busy weekends and worry …no way![/quote]

So, you think its ok women move on and get remarried and have more kids but men should just stay divorced and hand over their entire check to their ex?[/quote]

Not to their ex, to their kids. The kids should not have their dads estate diluted by your kids.[/quote]

No one is entitled to inheritance.   [/quote]

Exactly why the 2nd wife should not expect to get it.[/quote]

Who says we want it? [/quote]

Good we agree, you should not get it.[/quote]

You should also start working stop collecting alimony and start saving for your kids inheritance. Instead of using men as a pay check[/quote]

I actually have always made more money than my ex. Our money is in a trust and my ex can’t get it out without my say so.

I don’t think he’s stupid enough to take on a dependent 2nd wife.

I suspect if he’s stupid enough to remarry she wouldn’t be a slug who expected money from my family trust.[/quote]

Good God! Second wives are slugs are they lol i have a career and don't take a dime from DH.
Seems to me from this thread these poor men WERE 
Married to 'slugs' and now their  baby slugs are crying about inheritance [/quote]

Glad we agree his inheritance goes to his kids when he dies since you are not a slug and you don’t need it.[/quote]

Exactly goes to all kids...not just your greedy baby slugs crying about daddy's money[/quote]

You and he can create an inheritance if you want for your slug. My kids get all the money in our trust during our marriage.

Come on slug I had him during the low earning years… you can do this without your slug getting our money.[/quote]

There was no money during the marriage.   If she wanted his money, she shouldn't have cheated and stayed married to him.  Simple.[/quote]

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We aren’t talking about ex cheating wives.

We are talking about his kids.

Do you punish the kids because she cheated? Nice  :shock: [/quote]

You aren't punishing kids by not leaving them an inheritance.  Maybe all the money is the new wife's.  Ever consider that?

You are not entitled to an inhertance.

And, yes, cheating wives has a huge impact.[/quote]

We aren’t talking about the new wife’s money we are talking about the dad’s inheritance.

2nd wives can have a more negative impact, don’t be that person.

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You understand that some marriages are long-term.  We have been married for twice as long as he was married to his ex now so our money in mixed.  There is no his/my money and its our money.  We only kept our money separate when he paid child support as his ex filed in court expecting me to pay her child support (thankfully the judge threw that demand out).

So, what you are saying is I could be married for 40 years to my husband but the day he dies, 100% of our money should go to his kids, and not me and our kids.  Sure, ok.[/quote]

Let’s put it this way.

You are married 40 years.

You and he have $3M … you and he together.

You die.

Your $ goes to him. He dies 2/3 of your money goes to his 2 kids from his 1st marriage and your kid gets 1/3.

Each kid gets $1M

Orrrrrr

Your kid get your 1/2 $1.5M.

His kids split his 1/2 3 ways?

You want your money going to his kids from his 1st marriage?[/quote]

Do you know how I can tell you don't know anything about finance or the law? [/quote]

Do you know how I can tell you are a 2nd wife who just realized if you die 1st his kids get your money.[/quote]

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