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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Lol I think your brothers response was golden. Why did you marry this woman?  She sounds awful. [/quote]

+100.

No wonder your daughter does not want to come around the house when the girls are there.

And your brother, he should take your wife's daughters on a trip for their instagram account attention seeking??? No way.

Good luck, but I fear you are in for more of the same.

p.s. I think it is wonderful that your daughter, and her uncle & aunt have had these trips together all these years.  Priceless family memories!  [/quote]

I'm not one for playing favorites, but in this case - it is not your actual family, it is step children.  And, your brother treats his own blood nephew to a trip.  I would feel differently if he was taking one blood relative, and not the rest - but that is not the case here. Your wife sounds like a demanding shrew, who bred three more demanding shrews.  Yikes.[/quote]

Why does it matter if it’s a blood relative?  It actually seems kind of worse that it’s because they are stepchildren.  
My parents and sister will take just one of our kids on a trip sometimes.  No one gets hurt feelings about it because they know that they are valuable and loved by everyone and treated fairly overall.  [/quote]

It matters because you owe them nothing. It is somewhat like taking one of your kid’s friends on a trip. If you want to and can afford it, great, but zero obligation. Frankly you have no obligation to take blood nephews/nieces on trips either.[/quote]

OP's brother owes OP's step children nothing.  OP's brother owes OP's natural daughter-his own niece by blood-nothing.  Certainly not a fancy trio.

There, have we gotten that out of the way?  
Good.

Next issue:  Any person can use their own money any way that they see fit, as long as it is legally permissible.   Brother can, at his option, give money or pay for a vacation for another person, but is not obliged to do so.

The brother can pay for, but is never obliged to, pay for anyone elses vacation that he wants.  The other person does not have to be related to brother in any way.  The other person can be a friend, an acquaintance, or a random stranger.

Still with me?

Brother could, if he wanted to, pay for vacations for OP's step kids but NOT for OP's own daughter.  Why?  BECAUSE IT IS HIS MONEY AND HE GETS TO DECIDE HOW TO SPEND IT, ASSUMING HIS OWN SPOUSE AGREES TO THAT.

OP's wife is wrong not because of who is or is not related to who, or what she does or does not think is fair, or whatever brother said to her, but because SHE DOES NOT GET TO DECIDE HOW BROTHER OR ANYONE ELSE WITH NO LEGAL OBLIGATION TO HER OR HER CHILDREN, SPEND THEIR MONEY.

If OP's wife does not like what his brother said to her, she can choose to have no contact with him, she can torture her husband about it, she can stand on her head in the corner throwing tantrums, whatever.  When and if she decides to finish her drama, SHE STILL HAS NO SAY IN HOW BROTHER CHOOSES TO SPEND HIS MONEY.

The people posting in this thread who don't seem to grasp this are probably as stupid and greedy as she is, but that does not change the facts.[/quote]

Applause 👏 [/quote]

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