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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wonder how many of you would opt for euthanasia (if it were available) if your child had a brain injury…as in brilliant Johnny took a bad fall from his bike, and his IQ drops from potential-Harvard lawyer to someone who can only have a simple job. I mean he won’t have the intellectual abilities of the limbless child (who we’ve already decided is a no-go). I guess what I’m trying to figure out is where will you be drawing the line? Hearing all this about what makes a child fit to live…Johnny is now going to use up financial resources that your second high IQ child could use for law school…do you really want to tell Sally no if Johnny’s highest career aspiration is to be a grocery bagger? I mean he costs a lot of money with no return on investment! The horror!

Really, this is how some of you sound. [/quote]

Most parents will care for a child if they develop disability later in life (ie after birth) and it will still be very hard.  Just like we care for other family members who become disabled due to accident, genes or illness. Why would you bring a child into the world if they have severe disability? That is cruel.  Unless you have so much money that you can ensure a great standard of living and care for them for the rest of their natural life.

Do you care if they are sexually abused by their caregiver? Will you get their tubes tied or give them a vasectomy?

Brilliant Johnny having an accident is terrible bad luck
Severely disabled from birth Jenny has the bad luck of having cruel parents. [/quote]

So, parents who choose to bring a disabled child into the world are now cruel? Is that what you think when you see a family with a disabled child? I have no words.[/quote]

Yes, and yes, you should stop talking.[/quote]

I don’t automatically think that, no - because when I see a disabled child I don’t know if they were clearly diagnosed as such in the womb or if they suffered a birth injury or later illness/accident that resulted in their profound disability.

I *do* always feel sorry for the disabled child because PC be damned, they are not going to have the same chances and opportunities in life as a typically abled child and life is so damn hard as it is. And as a caregiver I know how very high risk they will be for abuse and exploitation all through their lives even if they have great parents. And I feel sorry for the parents because PC be damned, NO parents wants a SN child especially not one who is profoundly disabled. This is not anybody’s dream and when it happens it involves grief for the experience of family that was envisioned to begin with.

I admit I have little understanding for folks who bring profoundly disabled or dying children into the world intentionally. I could never do it. My perspective is shaped from having endured an abusive lonely and painful childhood and feeling very strongly that children, none of whom ask to be born, deserve the very best we can give them and bringing someone into this world with profound disability seems cruel to me. A better world with the right resources and attitudes toward disabled people, sure. That is not this world.[/quote]

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