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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote] You are so misguided. Absolutely parents plan the journey. What sports to play and which activities to do. It is a 100% planned![/quote]

You are embarrassingly wrong.  I have one of those kids that loves to argue with people so reads up on topics he is interested in, follows his passions with his extracurriculars and that comes through when you know him and on his app, and is academically driven and self-motivated.  Also plays a travel sport. We actually encourage him to dial it back, but that’s not his nature.  There may be kids who do it for packaging, but I would think by high school it would be almost impossible to force your kid into ECs, etc.[/quote]

Yes you can’t force in HS. Thats why the planning starts early to try to get the kids good enough to be recruited or be able to get on HS teams. Even with naturally good athletes you need pushy parents. I know parents who hired private coaches for squash, soccer, Basketball and even running. You put your kids on travel teams, send them to exclusive sports camps, and play club sports, you think that the 7/8 year olds can figure this stuff out? No. Of course not. But you push them when they are young so they get good enough. Once they are good enough and you have drilled into them what’s important and why they need to work hard they can take the lead in HS. But some unlucky ones burn out by then either physically or mentally or both. But don’t tell me that a kid just loves to basketball and never played travel or club and was able to get on HS team and become a captain. Thats BS. You can fool yourself fine.. but that’s not the reality. [/quote]

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