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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So Op, you make more money than he does and yet you can't budget for the outside help you need? You clearly spend more than your husband thinks is necessary on other things. [/quote]

I pay for most of our bills and all of our food. I can’t spend any more money on outsourcing. I already pay for childcare, I’ve started paying for dog daycare. I would love to hire a cleaner but there is just no way I can make it work.

If H cut back on his takeout, he could likely pay for it, but he won’t. He is incapable of putting together a breakfast or lunch, and so gets fast food on the way to work and while at work. And if I can’t cook dinner for any reason, he gets fast food.

I went over his spending with him a few weeks ago to see where his money is going and it’s literally all food charges [/quote]

If you pay for all food-- you mean all groceries purchased and then used at home, right? Does he pay for all this fast food himself or do you give him money for food for himself? Because if you're somehow paying for his fast food breakfasts, lunches and dinners I'd cut off his money for that starting immediately. But I'm betting he's thinking he pays for it all himself so he can eat whatever he pleases. He must be horrifically unhealthy too, with al that fast food. [/quote]

I pay for groceries. Even to the point where if he has to go to the grocery store, he takes my card out of my wallet to purchase them. I found that out when I went to go run errands and my card was missing. [/quote]

So you pay for everything and when he's ask to cover anything for the family he justbsteals.from you?  Yikes.

This is a rare situation where I think you'll end up in a better financial position post divorce.  He's supposed to pay for childcare, he's a parent.  Have a judge make him.[/quote]

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