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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, i love a man who is not monogamous. I don’t want to/can’t build a life with him but I do love him. You may be able to continue to love your husband but building a life with someone who is not truthful is a whole other bag of worms. You need to separate the two—human complexity, your history, your love for one another, from the very tangible aspects of building a life, raising children, and growing as an individual. [b]I don’t see how cheating and lying are compatible with the second set of tasks[/b]. Either he comes fully clean and you decide together whether to continue (and he has to fully face himself and be realistic about what he can and cannot promise), or you live a sham life by staying. [/quote]

Perceptive and realistic post, OP. Read it again. Especially the part in bold. Two things are going on, and one is--for this PP and for many of the rest of us -- not compatible with the other. You and your DH have a serious choice to make, unless you choose to bury your head in the sand entirely. If you do that, be aware that you are therefore giving him 100 percent of your mental real estate. His actions will have dictated your reaction, which is to pretend your previous life still exists. It doesn't, because you can't unlearn what you now know. [/quote]

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