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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Having children earlier, in my mid 20s, would have been the only time I might have been able to successfully have children. Unfortunately I wasn't married or dating anyone that was marriage material. Started trying after marriage at 30 and gave up at 40. No kids. [/quote]

I had my first at age 30 and I was the first amongst my friends. Having children in your 30s is the norm in professional circles. I had my first child at 30 and my third child at 38. Almost all my friends had their first kid in their early-mid thirties and a second/third mid-late 30s.[/quote]

I I had my first at 28 and 3rd at 32 but I live in Denver. I was on the younger side but there are plenty of professionals around my age with young kids. My friends on the coasts have recently gotten married and have started planning for kids now at 34. I think high cost of living in major cities like NY or SF really impacts at what age people are able to afford kids. [/quote]

Pp here. I’m from NYC and now live in DMV. Both NYC and DC seem to have moms giving birth in their 30s or at least in our circles. Most of our friends have careers that require a graduate degree. I guess you could have a baby as soon as you graduate but most women work for a few years.[/quote]

That’s what I did, I just have a masters degree so I had my first a couple years post grad school.

Personally, I think if you are financially stable and in a ready for kids you can be a great parent at 26 or 36[/quote]

I'm from a country where it's the norm for both sexes to marry and procreate in their 20s.  This does not seem to affect career progress for those that were career minded.  The things that help to make it work is a) strong social safety net, b) expected family support, and c) similar social models.   One of my college mates, for instance, has married her college sweetheart right at 22.  A child at 24.    They are both in high-level managerial positions today, and their son is 25, out of college and engaged.  I don't know that they've ended up worse than my example of still potty-training my youngest as I didn't start having children until late thirties.  There's a lot to be said for being young energetic grandparents, or having half your life still ahead of you with your reproductive and child-raising goals already behind you.   Not bad at all.[/quote]

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