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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is always the parents fault and I am not being sarcastic.[/quote]

Op here, I will say that DH was my most challenging kid. He was headstrong and demanding from the time he was a baby. He was rarely content and cried a lot as a baby. He fought potty training and putting on clothes. I would dress him, he would take it off.  If we wanted him do his chores, he would argue about why it was unfair or he shouldn't have to do it - for a much longer time than the chore would take. He dropped out of college and blamed us because shouldn't have made him go in the first place. This is his personality.[/quote]

My mom raised six kids. When she shares (we are all older now) about the one who has trouble getting along with ANYONE (siblings, co-workers, friends/neighbors), she said he was difficult from childhood. Very fussy and hard to please. When the rest of us hear his version of our upbringing, we don't even recognize it (his perceptions are SO twisted).

My mom says (from her experience) kids come with a pre-baked personality. You can only do so much to shape how they perceive the world.

I think this is right (though of course, a non-loving/abusive family can screw up a child who had the potential to grow into a happy and healthy adult).[/quote]

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