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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Because my kids were not receptive to "pushing" and it backfired.  Maybe your kids will practice the instrument but, mine didn't when they didn't want to play anymore.  It was a huge waste of time and money.  So that's one reason.  Second I realized that my kids are not mini-mes and should have autonomy to chose what they want to do.  And I want a relationship with them when they are older.[/quote]

OP here. My kid was originally not receptive to pushing, but with appropriate punishments for not responding to my pushing (ie: taking away phone privileges, [b]not letting them take Driver's Ed[/b], not letting them meet up with friends on weekends, and the occasionally yelling and fighting), they became receptive. And, IME, so will 99% of kids (barring a learning disorder). Kids WILL have to be receptive if their social life is on the line. [/quote]

Didn't read all 14 pages, just page 1.

I push my kid out of their comfort zone because they're more laid back than I was and are still building self confidence and because of my pushing, they've found passions they otherwise wouldn't have had the confidence to try so they need a bit of a push. That said, they are extremely intelligent and they can do the work no problem. I let them choose the sport and the ECs. Now would I talk about removing privileges if they didn't do their work, blow off their classes and participated in nothing at school? Sure. Would one of those "punishments" be not letting them take Drivers ED? No. That's how I know OP is a troll or off their rocker. Knowing how to drive, regardless of when your kid gets their license, is a life skill and a safety issue as well in my opinion. Taking away a life skill and equating that to pulling back on phone time is not in the same ball park, it's not even the same sport.

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