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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]I am a PP who is a spouse of a partner, and it is laughable to me that an anonymous stranger could actually think they “know” that I am in denial about my partners well being. Or the well being of all our friends also in big law. There are problems in how some law firms address mental health and work life balance, and I’m proud that my partner has been a leader in addressing those issues head on in his firm - and he leads by example. He works hard, but his family and well-being (including sleep!) come first.[/quote]

+1 The guy posting as retired partner apparently believes his experience is the only one, and if people claim different experiences or emotions it’s only because they are not self-aware.[/quote]

The guy posting as retired partner probably knows more about how miserable his partners are/were than many of their spouses because he likely spent more time with them.  [/quote]

I believe him a lot more than I believe the self-interested spouse PP. [/quote]

I am him, and thank you.  It’s interesting; my wife had no problem whatsoever with my walking away and giving up all of that money because she, too, knew it was an unnecessarily grueling and unhealthy existence in so many ways for both of us.  But, again, like me she managed not to get too caught up in the financial trappings either.  I don’t think the majority of Biglaw partners wives are like her in that way.  This seems to be being confirmed in this thread.

Since walk away from working life almost a decade ago, we have been living extremely comfortably on around $225k a year, all generated from retirement accounts and other investments that I made when working (spouse was a SAHM mom).  Having just passed 60, we are still years away from collecting social security., but when that happens we will get a boost of about another $55k.  That will be nice, sure, but not necessary:   We haven’t had to make any lifestyle changes since retiring, because we never lived that large before.  You just don’t need any more money than that, especially once the kids are grown, and it can really ruin to make so much money and then decide that you can’t live well without it.

We leave next week for a two-week trip abroad. [/quote]

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