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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Staying with my DH after his affair is one of the most difficult things I have done.  I took the advice of a good friend who basically told me not to make any rash decisions and give myself the gift of time to really figure out what I wanted and what I could handle.  My DH did a lot of individual therapy, changed jobs, stopped traveling, and signed a post-nup with a cheating clause. He has made every effort to regain my trust.

We communicate much better now and our kids are thriving.  With that being said, there is not one day that goes by that I do not think about it.  It is really a terrible trauma to live through.  Sometimes what is worse than the fact of the affair is going back and remembering what I was like those initial few weeks.  Couldn't eat, sleep, lost 15 pounds, pulled over on the side of the road and sobbed often, sat in the doctor's office crying while I got checked for STDs.  I had such a displaced sense of reality and felt like a walking zombie.  I am happy that I stayed mainly but sometimes I do wonder whether healing from my trauma would have been easier if I left.[/quote]

I hope you’re doing well. I am you but only found out last year. I am no longer a zombie but I am broken. I decided a few weeks ago to stay and try but i go back and forth. Reading your post makes me feel some hope. Good luck to you. [/quote]

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