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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You're all doormats who married weak men. We've been married for 20+ years and we don't cheat.  My H knows that 1) I'll kick him out and divorce him or 2) I'll get twice as many lovers. And he also knows that I mean it. So much mental gymnastics. And the therapist talking about the grey area. Really? Of course they encourage working on the relationship,  it's not fair that only the divorce lawyers get all the gravy. Look at stats about therapists' own relationship success and you'll see how great they are. In life, there are things that must be black and white. It's your choice that you don't think your H's  integrity to you is important and worth that black and white determination.  He obviously knows that, hence why he has no respect for you. You'll find excuses for the nth mistress.  Grow some bone. [/quote]

Ha.  This is a woman who does not know her husband bangs someone else occasionally.  My neighbor was just as vocal this way…and guess what  :lol: ?[/quote]

My boss was like that too.  Her husband left her for the admin.  She never saw it coming.[/quote]

Pride goeth before the fall. I was arrogantly telling a therapist friend that I didn't understand why couples needed marital therapy because you should just communicate what's in your head. The next day I found out my husband was having an affair. [/quote]

I was one of those posters saying my husband would never cheat.  And, also he had zero opportunity.  Never traveled for work, was home after work, every weekend we were together, he never did guys only nights, he didn’t golf, etc, etc.  We really always got along great, good sex, etc.

I also was TOTALLY blind sided.  I now feel like an idiot I was all high and mighty that my husband wasn’t the kind (and I was hot and successful, very fit).

I now see all people very differently.  I’m 52 and just in the last few years I’ve started seeing more “facades” and more “good people” getting caught doing things I never would have suspected and “solid marriages” starting to crumble.  It’s crazy.[/quote]

Wow, so when did he do it?

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