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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s a sad state of affairs that we expect a couple to work 105 combined hours per week and have time to raise a kid. Work is the bigger problem here. [/quote]

OP exactly my point. The myth of the career woman is oversold. You can definitely either make it super big or have a good but not amazing career and have a good marriage.but a really good career usually works out if it’s the man. [/quote]

Misogyny goes both ways. If you were a man, people would be calling you out on this but since you're a woman and the vast majority of people on his board are women who have taken a second seat to their spouse, they'll agree with you.

I have your ideal husband, OP. I work more and make more money, we are[b] equal partners [/b]in home-making and childcare.  There are some areas that are my strengths and I can manage with my schedule (I'm the organized one - I am responsible for the financials, childcare things like finding and ensuring payment for camps, after care, classes, finding service people for things like broken heater), and others that are better for his strengths and his schedule (cooking, yardwork, kids drop off/pick up, homework help, etc.), and yet other things we both hate doing but split or hire out (cleaning is a big one, fixing things, etc.).

You can do two things - you can sit here and continue to complain yet do nothing, or you can try to make a change (if talking to him doesn't work, then couples therapy might).[/quote]

PP here - I'll add that I am well aware that the hands on stuff takes longer and sometimes feels like more work. Most of what I listed above that I do can be done while I'm multi-tasking. [/quote]

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