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[quote=Anonymous]I just want to point out that there are SEVERAL of us here who are advocating for soap to consider the perspectives of ALL people in the adoption circle (it’s truly more than a triad) with the CHILD at the center, and with adoptive family and first family perspectives in the periphery.

Way too often, prospective adoptees just listen to the experience of adoptive parents.  Did it “work” for you?  Hoe long did it take? How expensive was it?  What problems came up?  Are you glad you didn’t?

They don’t consider:
*Adoptee voices
*Substantial research demonstrating significantly higher rates of mental illness and suicide among adopted persons
* criticism of the adoption industry in general
* significant evidence demonstrating that the vast majority of relinquishing mothers are poor woman, often minors, without equitable access to legal reorientation, unbiased counseling, or any alternative to the financial support and health care offered in the adoption contract, with no benefit beyond the initial need for premarital housing and care. 
* voices of relinquishing parents
* perspectives of other family members who have a stake in kinship relationships with family members separated from them through adoption.

Jeff can look and see that there is definitely more than one voice here trying to offer a splash of reality.  OP wants to know about adoption.  I don’t think adoption is always wrong, though it always involves trauma.  I do think it is most often coercive and unethical, especially with infant adoption.  I have loved ones and dear friends who are wonderful adoptive parents and went into it understanding that adoption is trauma as well as joy, and that adoptive parents who want to do it right need to have a full proctors of the lives and hearts that are connected to the child they choose to love.  [/quote]

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