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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's not new, and it's not exclusive to DCUM. Who in your household keeps track of birthdays, doctors appointments, clothing sizes, early dismissals, permission slips, camp signups, holiday cards, and meal planning? Does that person also have a paid job?[/quote]

I do all of this and have a paid job. It's not hard. Why do women seem to struggle with it?

-- Single Dad.

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You have no spouse.  How can you compare?[/quote]

DP.  I do all of those things and I have a spouse.  This is not rocket science.

In addition to working, I monitor the 2 elders (both related to me through my husband) who live with us and provide care to them.  Should I be running around shrieking "I'm melting, I'm melting" because my "mental load" is so great?  No.  Because my husband is doing more than his fair share.  I would tenfold prefer to manage the calendars and schedules of the 12 people in our household, as well as housecleaning and meal prep, on top of my job rather than have to deal with the regular household maintenance, car maintenance, yard maintenance, home security, etc that my husband does.  You want a party planned?  Please let me do it.  You want the wood pile moved, you need to talk to my husband.  In our household we divide and conquer, and we each have taken the things that we are better at.

Some of you sound like complete helpless ninnies.  Pull on your big girl panties for heaven's sake.  None of this is hard.[/quote]

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