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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why is it the expectation that the bisexual person not act upon their bisexuality? Why are we conditioned to place such importance on monogamy, which ithough sometimes beneficial, is not natural?[/quote]

It's only an expectation for someone who wishes to be monogamous. I don't care if other people are monogamous, only if my partner is monogamous with me.

"Natural" is an irrelevant term, and a dangerous one when talking about sexuality (plenty of people have argued that non-procreative sex is unnatural, people use this term to enforce their biases).

But you've also outlined exactly why many straight or homosexual people choose not to date bisexual or pansexual people, and why it's nothing to do with biphobia. If your goal is a longterm monogamous relationship, dating a bisexual person seems like you are putting an automatic limit on the relationship because presumably at some point that person will wish to act on their bisexual desires for a gender that you are not. Or you are banking on them being satisfied with expressing their bisexuality only other ways (pornography, fantasy, role play), which may not be a reasonable expectation. It just doesn't make sense for me, as a person interested in monogamy, to set myself up for what seems like an obvious outcome of a relationship with someone who has a strong sexual interest that I will never be able to fulfill.[/quote]

Most gay male marriages aren't monogamous.[/quote]

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