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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some of you are insane. First of all, no, not wanting to date a bisexual man isn't "biphobic" and you're all acting like right-wing trolls. "I GUESS THAT MAKES ME BIPHOBIC." Literally no one said that. If you're not attracted to them, don't date them. I'm not attracted to Asian men so I don't date Asian men. That's not racist, that's just a preference. Literally no one said you were biphobic other than maybe a Jacobin writer so stop playing the martyr.

Second of all, while, yes, a lot of gay and bisexual people are more, uh, kinky, I don't think that's true of all of them. Dating a bisexual doesn't automatically equate to "you need to be in an open relationship and have nightly MMF threesomes." Wtf. [/quote]

Literally someone on this thread DID say that and that is what people are responding to:

[quote][b]5. It is Bi-phobic to not date a Bisexual person. You are literally afraid of them and have prejudices against them. That's what a phobia is. That's what this entire thread is.[/b][/quote]

When you tell people they are biphobic for not wanting to date someone who is bisexual, even if they are in every other way tolerant and open to bi people (as friends, coworkers, as people with rights, as people who should get to choose their own sexual partners and not be persecuted for it), then yes, you wind up with a lot of people defensively saying they are NOT biphobic for not wanting to date a bisexual person.

Also, no one equated bisexuality with wanting an open marriage or having nightly threesomes. But some posters have said that one reason they are unlikely to date a bisexual person is that there is a higher likelihood that a bisexual person might want an open relationship in the future (if, say, they find over the longterm that marriage to a person of one gender does not enable them to sufficiently express their bisexuality) or might be more interested in exploring bisexual experiences like threesomes. I don't find open marriages or threesomes taboo or a mark of immorality, so I don't think the supposition that a bisexual person might be more interested in them, statistically, to be some kind of insult. It is reasonable for a straight person to be concerned that a longterm relationship with someone who knows they are attracted to multiple genders might cause issues down the road.

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Literally this entire thread is full of people who are fully convinced that Bi people are inherently cheaters and absolutely incapable of monogamy. And that's a crappy, phobic, prejudiced 
way of thinking.

Again is it OK for me to say I wouldn't date a religious person because I think they are repressed and into water sports? [/quote]

You are reading the posters who are saying prejudiced things and assuming that ALL the posters are saying that. There have been many posters who have said they wouldn't date bi men without also saying anything biphobic.

There have been several posters who have said they like dating bi men.

There was one poster who said not wanting to date bi people is automatically biphobic, and several posters have politely but strongly disagreed.

I do think it is hard for some people who are not bi to wrap their head around the idea of a bi person getting married and staying monogamous because doing so would be equivalent to saying they will no longer act on their bisexuality. It is an interesting aspect of bi or pan-sexuality that people who are heterosexual, homosexual, or asexual might be unfamiliar with. I think some of the comments have fallen into the category of being confused for this reason and lacking understanding. They are biphobic but I think mostly just need to be more educated on how actual bi people think about these  issues. If you've never known a bi person, or only known a couple who were not monogamous, it could really color your thinking in ways you might not realize are biphobic.

(Also, lots of people, including me, would refrain from dating very religious people for any number of reasons, and it's totally a-OK. People get to be selective about who they date and have sex with and that's a good thing. That choice is separate from how you think about people generally or how you treat people in the world. Your dating app preferences are not definitive of your feelings about other human beings.)[/quote]

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