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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So if his penis was in another hole, you’d be okay with him coming home and putting it in your hole? That’s kind of the base level question here. [/quote]

Shower first, please.[/quote]

By then the bacterial/viral infection has already set in.  You can’t wash off hiv or chlamydia.[/quote]

There is such a thing called condom.[/quote]

Guys don't always use condoms with APs, especially if they think she can't get pregnant.

Also, condoms, don't prevent all STIs.[/quote]You don't have to drag down EVERY FRICKIN POST about sexual relations by bringing up STIs.  We are adults.  We know about it.  We also know how to have sex without catching cooties.  I presume you did too when you were single and riding a bunch of Ds?  Seriously, can you just stop?[/quote]

People in affairs and/or cheating are risk-takers by nature.  In my practice, we see so many betrayed spouses with STIs.  [/quote]

I would still argue that on average, a married person is less likely to have multiple sex partners or carry STI comparing to a single person with the same level of attractiveness.

Sure, a highly attractive married person (like a celebrity or a CEO) may be more promiscuous than a 25-yo single unattractive nerd. But if you compare a single 25-yo average man to a married 45-yo average man, or a single 25-yo above-average looking woman to a married 45-yo above-average looking woman, I'd bet my money on the former being more promiscuous and having more chance of carrying STIs. The latter (the married ones) have too much constraints - kids, careers, the efforts of hiding the affairs - that makes it a lot more difficult (but not impossible) to have multiple partners.

Of course there are the sex addicted cheaters that are banging multiple people at the same time - I bet they did the same when they were single too. But for most married people that are having affairs, they are just looking for sex, attention, and external validation, and they would just be thrilled to have - and practically possible to maintain - one AP at a time.[/quote]

*less likely"  wow--such safety measures taken by cheaters on behalf of their spouses. Thanks for not banging a prostitute bare-back, just some whore off of Ashley Madison who has banged multiple men off of websites.[/quote]

I'm the PP you are responding to. Do you think those cheaters who bang their APs bareback would be having protected sex if they were single? No way. People who have risky sex when cheating would just have riskier sex with more sex partners when they were single. People in general become more risk-adverse as they grow older and settle down.

I'm talking about the population average of STIs among single people having casual sex vs. married cheaters. Not your anecdotal stories of married whores banging all men off AM. If you are OK with young, single people having casual premarital sex, and you think STIs is just an acceptable, controllable risk for single people to have sex, then I don't see how it is different from married people having affairs.

There are certainly people (single or married) who are very careful about having protected sex and there are also those who don't give an F. All the men I slept with when I was single were willing to use condoms. But ultimately you know your DH best. If he was reluctant to use condoms in the early stage of you two dating, then chances are he wouldn't use condoms when he has an affair. 
[/quote]After having a vasectomy, even less likely.  Women hate condoms even more than men.  You should see their eyes light up when I let them know I'm snipped.[/quote]

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