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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Curious OP [b]do you have an infant/toddler [/b]at home? [/quote]

[b]I do! [/b]My DH takes charge if i go out to meet friends.[/quote]

How many kids do you have and what age?[/quote]

[b]Currently have a K and 5th-grader,[/b] but this was always the case even when they were infants-toddlers. [/quote]

NP. So…you *don’t* have an infant or toddler.[/quote]

I currently have a 3yo and a 1yo. This thread has reminded me to try to make an effort to get out even when it's exhausting. But I do think it might be hard for OP to understand what bedtime looks like when you have two really little ones, given the roughly 5 year age gap between a K and 5th grader. My DH could definitely handle one night, but there's no way I would make it a regular thing. It's all hands on deck here with dinner, bath, and bedtime - especially now that the 1yo is walking (with terrible balance) and the 3yo is testing every boundary, and they both go to sleep at the same time. 6-8pm is really spoken for, and since the younger one often wakes before 6am - I want to be in bed by 9:30 and I'm tired. But yes, I can go out after that and should push myself to do it more often. But it is way easier for me to escape during the day right now. And if my friends can't give me some grace in this season, then that will just be what it will be.[/quote]

Totally agree. I have a 3.5 yr old and 5 month old and bedtime is just really all hands on deck right now for both of us. I wonder if the larger age gap may have been helpful in making things a little more manageable during those first couple years with two. I had zero issue heading out in the evening when we just had my 3 year old but he is just pushing bedtime boundaries so much at this age and then combine that with an infant and either of us being alone just sucks. It happens, but we’d rather go out after bedtime or during the day during this season most of the time. [/quote]

My kids have this same age gap. I had to get both kids to bed my myself a lot because my husband traveled. Boundary testing 3 year old got to watch TV while I put the baby to bed. Did he stay up later and get more screen time than I would have liked? Yes. Is he a completely typical, smart, well adjusted kid 4 years later? Also yes. You do what you need to do. I think parents sometimes make things harder than they need to be by setting up arbitrary rules about screen time and whatnot. Just putting it out there in case it might work for you if you or your husband ever need to do it alone.   [/quote]

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