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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I am not worried about divorce, and if I’m wrong we have more than enough assets to divide. Which is part of my frustration about him wanting me to go back. It’s like, “why?” Things are good the way they are.

Anyway I wasn’t really looking to debate it as much as hear from women whose husbands maybe weren’t convinced at first but them changed their minds. [/quote]

I think you need to focus on the substantive disagreements between you and your DH.  He may not think that things are good the way they are.  He may not think that your assets are adequate.  It sounds like you need to make a very clear case to him that your family is financially on track to meet your agreed-upon goals, and open your mind to the possibility that his goals are different from yours or that his goals have shifted over time.

In my experience there's absolutely no way around this issue.[/quote]

This - it's really easy to say, "we're fine financially!" when (i) you're not responsible for providing he finances, and (ii) saying you're fine allows you to continue to stay at home.

In addition, while you may actually be fine, that doesn't mean going back to work is the wrong answer.  It's entirely possible your husband would like to slow his pace, or would like to retire early, or would like a little more cushion, or would like a more lavish retirement.  [/quote]

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