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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's bizarre to me that you seem to predicate having a second child on working/not working.  You either want a second child or you do not.  If you do, you'll make it work like billions of women did before you.  If you don't, well, don't have it, no one is forcing you to do that.

You also need to get out of the mindset that you're having children "for your husband".  You aren't.  Women have children primarily due to their own desire to reproduce. Your children are half yours. Everything you do for them - pregnancy, breastfeeding, child-rearing - one half of it is on you.  You sound really immature.[/quote]

It’s bizarre to me that you don’t understand that. Children need time and money. Double the children, double the time and money (roughly). If you feel you do not have enough of one or the other, you choose not to have that last child.[/quote]

Having children is not a rational decision if you want to come out ahead on time and money.   What outweighs rational factors, for most parents, is the primordial drive to have children that makes time and money losses worth it.  If you don't have the desire to have a second child, you don't have the desire.  If you do, you make it work.  And it's perfectly fine to say that you don't want the second child bad enough to make the time/money losses worth it.

Also, it's not double the time and money.[/quote]

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