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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Update: As I mentioned, he and I were talking again late Feb to mid March. He said he wanted to see me and cancelled at the last minute and he said he was probably trying the “arranged marriage thing” because he “would not forgive himself if he did not at this age” but that he was not having a kid right away and “if this does not work, they can never pressure me again.” (The last time I saw him in person was late Jan. a month after the breakup…the entire month of January he was texting me he missed me, was confused and did not want to meet others…but his family was really pressuring him to just hurry up and get married.

He texted asked me a question in late March, I responded, but he never replied. He ignored a text a few weeks later.

I just found a post from his friend on Facebook that he had an arranged marriage last week. It was not on his page, but his friend’s. I am shocked it was so fast. I literally last saw him a little over 4 months ago. I do not know how he could actually be happy but who knows. I wonder if arranged marriages can last and be happy if they are rebounds or primarily done due to family pressure. I felt his feeling were real and he just made the decision to do it their way when he said they would never accept me. But part of me feels lied to (and I asked up front). I do wonder if he will be happy and if this kind of marriage will really work (not that I will ever find out).

So, that is a more recent (and final) update. I am very surprised at the speed. [/quote]

If you are familiar with his culture then you know that’s not fast for an arranged marriage.  I’m so curious why after so many months you are still clearly pining for him when you claim you didn’t want anything serious?  [/quote]

This is the part I don't understand. Why she is ruminating on this.  They dated for 6 months. This thread is just  about a week shy of being as long as their relationship was. I still think  as I did way back when this thread first started OP has had her ego bruised, she thought she was in charge of the situation and she wasn't. Bruised egos suck. Sudden break ups suck. But   When the thread you created about your break up is about to be the same age as the length of your relationship it's time to put the sucker to bed and move on, and if you can't well maybe a little bit of therapy is needed to help you move on.. You probably don't even need that just a new love interested , plenty of  men to date this post covid summer, OP, go out there and get your freak on and forget about your ex boyfriend of 6 months.[/quote]

Closing the story makes me feel better. I have moved on. I am allowed to feel shock at finding out he is already married. It hurts a little and that is ok. 
 I said it was boyfriend/girlfriend situation I thought could last years but not lead to marriage. I do not want to remarry. [/quote]

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