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[quote=Anonymous]This is the most entitled poster I've ever read on DCUM, and believe me, that's saying something.
Opened this thread, thinking it would be about a kid with few and poor options.  Not a kid who felt like they DESERVED an Ivy, and has three amazingly strong offers from excellent schools.  
EVERY kid who applies to an Ivy has stats and activities as high or higher than your daughter.  EVERY single one has worked just as hard as your daughter.  Many have these stats, but without the ultra-privileged background and advantages that your daughter had.  And the vast majority of them won't get offers.  As previous posters have said, at some point, it's just a LOTTERY.  
It's a tough lesson, but we all have to learn that sometimes hard work and desire sometimes aren't enough.  And, since she doesn't seem to have learned this preschool lesson, "You get what you get, and you don't get upset."  
I'd suggest that as a parent, you model a good attitude by not dwelling on the rejections.  Even if the counselor misled you, the university led you on, and no matter how much you feel your daughter deserved a spot, etc--move past it.  Visit the colleges she's been accepted at, try to find students or alum who've gone there who would be willing to share their experiences, remain enthusiastic about the choice process.  And give it time--most kids will fall in love with the college they accept, especially if you don't make it seem like a lesser choice.  
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