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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To me the funniest argument / cop out is "I'm a better mom if I work because I feel fulfilled and my kid benefits from my feelings of fulfillment."  Or "I want to set an example for my kids that I work."

Yea, right.  On both fronts.[/quote]

My mom was an excellent SAHM and did an amazing job raising us. I work — at home for the first year of my kids’ life, outside later. I saw my mom’s struggles with identity and feeling a lack of accomplishment once we were in school, and I didn’t want that. She also was not confident she could deal with the working world and was always quite negative about dealing with office politics or other expectations while at the same time idealizing getting recognition of her work. I think my work experience has taught me a lot that I can pass on to my kids about how to navigate the world. Whether it’s negotiation or not giving up on a difficult, challenging project, the structure of professional life pushes me and brings out different skills. [b]I think that has some value for a child to see their mom being confident in different situations.[/b][/quote]

LOL the thread is about "infant years."  I don't think an infant is impressed that mom has a job.[/quote]

Yes, but how many women can step back into a career after being out for several years? I certainly couldn't. My job was up or out. And I do think even an infant knows if a mom is depressed, insecure, or has anxiety. I'm not saying that piece is necessarily correlated with WOH/SAH. I'm saying that each woman should consider how to give the most she can give to her baby. And perhaps some women are very good at practical nurturing, like rocking and burping and swaddling, and others have other interests and passions that would result in having different gifts and talents to share with their child. Regardless, modeling confidence and self-esteem is important at all ages.

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