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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP.  The only concern OP's DH seems to have expressed, is about the loss of "his" inheritance.  To him, this isn't about OP's mom's wedding ring, or family pictures, or burial plot.  He believes that he is entitled to his FIL's money, and is upset that he might not get what he believes should be coming to him.

Some of the posters have raised legitimate concerns about OP's dad's future plans.  The ones about long-term care, death  and associated plans, those are things she should discuss with him before he gets married.  She already has all the material things that are meaningful to her, and doesn't care if she gets her dad's money or not.  It's not in the DH's place to butt into this.

Personally, I am really troubled by the attitude of many of the posters here.  We are wealthy, entirely self made, and have one child.  She is only 11, but knows that the only thing we *owe* her, is a good education, the best we can afford, in whatever career she chooses.  She will come out with zero debt.  Beyond  that, whether we leave the money to charities, decide to flush it down the toilet, give it to other family members - she knows that she is not entitled to any of it, and is expected to make her own way in the world.  We will likely not leave her nothing, but what we do leave her, will be entirely our choice.

If at any point in time, she decided to have some conversation with me about what she is entitled to, or some generational wealth bullshit, she will be entirely cut out of the trust. And I would consider myself a failed parent.[/quote]

That’s all well and good...but, if you die and your husband remarries some bimbo and gives all your money to the bimbo’s kids, I think your daughter would be entitled to be a bit pissed off.[/quote]

Exactly.

And failed parent would be someone who cuts a kid out of a trust in order to teach them a lesson. [/quote]

*shrug* I'd rather raise a self sufficient child, than an entitled one.  Your mileage might vary.  I don't believe in hoarding money, generational wealth, and creating people that are relying on other people's efforts for their livelihood (socialism!!!)

And I would think that a parent that cares about their biological children would be mindful of the consequences of their actions, and act appropriately.  If they don't, that's a deliberate choice, and reflective of their relationship with their children.  People don't accumulate wealth accidentally; they know how to manage it.[/quote]

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