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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you’re not divorced you have no right to comment on this board. The condescending attitudes about what’s right and “not just marrying anyone” are uncalled for. No one is talking about just marrying anyone. The question is about two people that suffered through divorce finding happiness again and hoping to expand a family.

Yes, it can work if done correctly, especially if the children are young and already get along. [/quote]

Adult children of divorce have a perspective you won't get from divorced people.  Divorced people can be very self-deluding about the consequences of their choices, and will stubbornly insist that everything is great, when really things are pretty bad.  [/quote]

I get this, but I'm not sure how having parents who are miserably still together, or miserably single with no partner for emotional support, is really that better for kids? At some point you do have to drop the bitterness.  [/quote]

You are still not getting it.  It's not that I am bitter.  I am tired.  I just don't want to spend time propping up the illusion of a big happy family.  My parents have the right to date and marry.  I have the right to think their relationships are dysfunctional and their new partners are losers.  I don't want to spend my time and energy on it.  I have my own family now, and my own marriage and in-laws, and my other parent as well.  I'm just not available for the fake happy family thing.  Divorced parents should go in with eyes open and understand that their children may be polite but likely wil never truly blend.[/quote]

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