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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ve only read the OP so far. Not all kids are competitive at sports. If he loves his “no cut” sport and enjoys it, who the F cares whether he practices or excels. I imagine it gets his body moving, and it enables him to interact with other people. It sounds like you want him to reflect well on you, or match your competitive, driven spirit, and that’s not a fair burden to put on him. Kids bloom and evolve at different times, some later than others. He will find his own path.[/quote]
Yeah, the sport thing is just odd to me. For the vast majority of kids, playing a sport is really just a way to get exercise. I played a number of sports when I was in middle school and high school, and was generally above average. But, parents back then weren't insane about sports like they are these days. No way would they have spent thousands of dollars and blown every weekend driving two states over just so their kids could be on some travel team coached by an obsessive psycho. I'm pretty glad my kids have other interests.

So, far, I haven't seen anything on this thread to indicate that there's really anything wrong with OP's kid. A lot of posters seem to be be projecting their own insecurities on a kid whose worst sin seems to be that he's laid back. [/quote]

OP doesn't sound like a crazy travel sports mom. OP referenced the sport to bolster the point the kid is lazy and unmotivated not just at home, but also at school, in the no-cut sport he plays, on and on. There's no there there in any environment except in front of the TV.[/quote]
If she's trying to make the argument that the kid is lazy and unmotivated, she hasn't done a good job. At most, she's shown evidence that the kid has interests that she doesn't share. I'm still waiting to see some evidence on this thread that the kid is doing badly at school, or is in danger of going to prison, or whatever. OP has painted a picture of a kids with some hobbies and interests (video games, sports as a spectator), and that he's engaged in an extracurricular sport, though he's not a star athlete. He seems to have friends.

I'm still trying to figure out exactly what the issue is with this kid? Nothing on this thread leads me to believe that there's any real problem here. [/quote]

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