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[quote=Anonymous]Hi.  I was completely blindsided and all my friends have been shocked.  Married happily for 25 years before it started with his coworker.  I did not realize how strong the pull is to emulate a father who had cheated and acted like cheating was not only ok but a positive good (follow happiness, etc).  Cheating is definitely a function of mental health problems for the cheater, immaturity, etc.  We are working to reconcile now but it takes a tremendous amount of therapy for cheater and marriage.  Find experienced emotionally focused therapist (Gottman method).  Cheater has to have no contact, full transparency and work very very hard on themself.  They need to feel for themself deep remorse and shame.  We are not a year out yet so I dont know yet if it will work but investment is worth it for me (and not for money reasons).  Obviously the other woman is a complete piece of shit — in our case someone who clearly had daddy issues and inappropriate conduct including in a work place.  She is also married.  Best wishes PP whose story sounds like my own.  [/quote]

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