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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let's say this again: much, much cheating takes place in marriages where sex is freely available but for whatever reason, no longer thrills.[/quote]
Agreed. You failed to mention this category of cheating is dominated by wives who reject their husband but seek out the interesting new guy.

So let's be clear on this specific point: the LARGE MAJORITY of men cheating takes place in marriages where sex is rare due to an uninterested wife.[/quote]

We don't really know who dominates which category.

As a formerly single girl I can tell you that it isn't true.  Most married guys who propositioned me were open about the fact that they lost interest in having sex with their wives because "I'm bored having sex with the same person for 20 years", "she doesn't look the same way", "I can't do these things to the mother of my children", "I love my wife but am not wired for monogamy", etc.  Not infrequently, their APs were shocked by the news of the wife's new pregnancy - which I think illustrates quite clearly that the stories of the sexless marriage are quite oversold by the cheating husbands.

My DH have been cheating on me for a few years during which sex in the marital bed was freely available.  A new body is a new body, can't compete with that. [/quote]

There are numerous scientific research based studies proving that women get sexually bored in marriage far more than men. So yeah, we really do know who dominates the category.
Nobody here has claimed that all men with good sex at home don't cheat. The assertion is this is a fairly small percentage of men cheaters, most of whom get very little sex at home.[/quote]

We really don't know that.  You don't know how small or large a percentage of men cheaters have sex freely available at home. There are no reliable studies to support that.

What we do know is that for centuries, it was the male desire for multiple partners that was freely acknowledged, and in some cultures, codified in legal frameworks.  There is ample cultural support for the wife to forgive a straying husband who wishes to be forgiven.  No such support exists for the husband to forgive a straying wife - in fact, he'd be an object of ridicule as much as the wife would be praised at least by some. [/quote]

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