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[quote=Anonymous][quote]I am the PP you are responding too. Are you married? Have you been married to someone for two decades, the last decade we have had sex between 10-20x a year, in a good year. And dwindling. You act like we can just sit down and have a rational discussion: hey honey, I'd like to sleep with Cindy. You are cool with it? Great! See you later, don't wait up!

Instead, this conversation would only lead to more tears, more suspicion, more likely to divorce and screw up the family. So I pass on your radical honesty.

Listen, just have a good sexual and intimate relationship with your spouse and you won't have to worry about being in this position.[/quote]

You just made the point for the people arguing that your wife should have a chance to consent.  Have you explicitly told your wife that the lack of sex means you will look elsewhere for it?  Have you given her a choice between sex and a divorce, or sex and an affair?  She deserves a real chance to consent to your extramarital affair or divorce.  But of course you haven't had that conversation, because you want to keep your family life and have an AP and being honest would make that impossible.  You want to be able to convince yourself that you have justifiable reasons for cheating.  You are a cake eater.  Stop trying to rationalize your crappy moral code.[/quote]

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