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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Everything you describe is why I stopped looking for a job.

I had a great career in DC and now we live in a midsized midwestern city. My resume has big names splashed all over it and my particular field and positions sound so high-minded and fluffy that I don’t think anyone wanted to take a chance on me.

I learned new skills, went to industry conferences, and networked the hell out of this town when I got here but interesting jobs are few and far between and locals tell me those jobs are given based on who you know and if you are a relative.

That’s okay, I thought, I’ll try retail but any applications to retail jobs seemed to go straight to the circular file, probably because my previous salary  was much, much higher.

My husband asked me to give up. He knew I’d hate a job for a job’s sake, anyhow. And the money I’d earn wouldn’t make much difference.

So, I finally, sort of, accepted that I’m probably never going to work again. And the doubts drive me nuts all the time. I *feel* like I should be working even though I don’t need to and there’s nothing I’m really itching to do. I’d probably hate a job for a job sake.

Besides, my husband has a crazy schedule, I’m really into my creative work and I have a SN kid and don’t feel comfortable with her at any after-care programs. I’ve dabbled in selling my creative stuff at markets and fairs. It gives me some satisfaction. I hope when DD is older I can put more effort into it.

[b]It’s just hard to accept that the old me is gone.[/b][/quote]

Change is inevitable -  you get older, your life stage is different, your family needs become different, your financial needs may be different. The job which was amazing at 30, can be too inflexible  at 50. The job that gave you the opportunity to travel the world, no longer works when you have a small baby.  Taking on a job, just because you are conditioned that you contribute in an office working 9-5 is a fallacy, at different stages of your life.

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This is true.  Back when I was younger I had the drive to work overtime and even holidays because I really needed the money.  If I could work on the 4th of July and earn double time - heck, yeah, I'd do it.  If I had to stay late every day at work to see that a project got finished on time - I'd do it because I was hungry for a promotion.  Extra responsibilities?  Heck, yeah - bring it on.  Reliable to a fault.

I don't know that it would be the same for me now.  Honestly, I would rather have the holidays off with my family, double time doesn't mean what it used to and I've been in positions with more and increasing responsibility before so I know the pros/cons involved, BTDT....I'm not sure that I'd even want that now.

I'm thinking that maybe office temp work, substitute teacher or maybe seasonal retail work would be the way to go for me.

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