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[quote=Anonymous]I grew up Mormon and have dozens of friends and family members with 5+ kids.  Literally all of them tell me that 3 is when the dynamic shifts.  With one or two the family can carry on in a way that is still largely about the parents’ preferences.  With 3, you switch into being in kid mode 100% of the time.  With 2, you can micromanage them.  With 3, one of them at all times will be at least somewhat outside your sphere of supervision and influence.   And if you are the right kind of family, you will quickly see that centering your life on the kids and backing off and letting them be more independent is actually better for everyone involved. I think the problem comes because a lot of people don’t perceive a family of three as being a lot of kids, so they go for one more but they are not mentally prepared to make that shift. So instead of leaning into the big-family dynamic, they fight against it and try to run their family of three the same way that they ran their family of two.  Since that’s not really possible, they feel like they are in over their heads and are constantly stressed and flustered.

Basically, IMO, the families who are on the fence about 2 vs. 3 are usually happier with 2, but the families who are on the fence about 3 vs 4 are happy and capable with 4.[/quote]

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