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Kids need to feel loved by their parents and extended families. (They know money is no substitute.)

How does a kid feel loved when no family is home all day? And when mom or dad are home, they’re usually caught up in a bazillion ‘more important’ things to do.

Complete strangers are filling the void, in one way or another. Is that what you really want? Is it really worth the glory of being a duel “working” parent scenario?

Good parenting is an actual job, probably the hardest job there is. And most important job, because when it gets messed up, really bad things can happen down the road. Your child is worth your time - lots of it, because that’s what it takes.

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Oh give me a break. Most dual income families I know are parents with flexible jobs. DH and I both make six figures and can set our own schedules around core hours, work from home, etc. This allows us to stagger our schedules so we certainly aren’t neglecting our kids all day long. Disposable income means we can outsource things so we aren’t caught up in “a bazillion” more important things when not working.

This isn’t a slam on SAHMs. I think every family should do what is right for them, which can change at any given moment in time and vary based on parental strengths, availability of family help, and income earning potential.

But your skewed “view” on how 2 working parent households operate sounds like a fantasy you tell yourself to justify whatever life decisions you’ve made. And while money is not a substitute for love, study after study shows there are ample benefits to socioeconomic security. My kids have awesome federal health insurance thanks to me. They will never have to take out a student loan or otherwise start their adult lives saddled in debt. They will be able to experience travel, extracurriculars, etc. We already have a ton saved for retirement by mid thirties, so our kids will not have to struggle financially to care for us in old age.

Some people can do this on one income and it makes sense to have a SAHP if the breadwinner spouse does not have a flexible schedule. But for many of us, having two careers is immensely beneficial for our family even though this contradicts your simple worldview.[/quote]

Original PP you sound like you live somewhere very sheltered - you ought to get out more.  If making up some sort of fictitious dual (not duel) working parent scenario makes you feel better about your choices, go ahead.  [/quote]

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