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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I did. Had an abortion. [/quote]

+1 Best decision I ever made[/quote]

That’s pretty sad.[/quote]

It’s true.

Ending the pregnancy let her get a degree and possibly graduate school which probably led to a good job and meeting her spouse. The kids she has now are a product of that healthy and happy union.

Childbearing is something that affects everything else in your life - usually in a prohibitive way. Read any thread on here about new moms having a hard time with self care, or dealing with work and family. These women already have established lives - just imagine how much harder it would be to date, to job hunt AND take care of a baby. All this  when you can’t afford a babysitter and are constantly broke.

Most people can’t truly grasp what it means to have a child until it happens. Of the women I know who have had abortions in college, many felt conflicted about it - until they got married and had children. It was then that they understood that it truly was the best decision they could have made. A child turns your life upside down - life circumstances are the determining factor if it’s a huge blessing or an enormous obstacle. Maybe if we lived in Europe, this wouldn’t be the case, but there is no social safety net in this country. For anyone who is not wealthy, an unplanned pregnancy in college means a significant drop in living standards for you AND your child. It’s a lifetime of hardship for both of you.

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[b]PP could have placed the baby for adoption instead[/b]. And I know woman who have had abortions who had a very difficult time dealing with it later after having children. [/quote]

I'm adopted--my biological mother was clinically depressed for 10 years after putting me up for adoption and 40 years later still mentions how much she regrets the decision every time she talks to me (she contacted me in adulthood).  I had an abortion and have never regretted it before or after having my children.  People are different.[/quote]

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