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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I used to think it was silly that men are supposedly "intimidated" by successful women, but now I can appreciate why.

Most women expect a man to provide. If you don't provide a standard of living that is at least the equivalent of what she grew up with, she will resent you for it. Feminism only works one-way.

I think men should always marry a little bit "down" socioeconomically.  If you're an upper-middle-class man, marry a lower-middle-class woman. If you're a lower-middle-class man, marry a working-class woman. That way she'll appreciate you, even if you "only" make $100K at a government job. [/quote]

Or marry a woman who makes her own money. I'm always grossed out by women on DCUM who complain about how little their husbands make like they aren't capable of getting off their pretty asses and making some bank of their own. [/quote]

My DH married down socioeconomically (to me). I worked my tail off my whole life to get where I am, now making double what he does. I resent him for it...the "it" being the fact that I have to put in so much to make what I do, while he could easily outpace me but doesn't put in the work/time, AND I'm the primary parent/house organizer/cleaner/life planner to boot. If he did the vast majority of the "home" stuff, it would be completely different.

For many women I know who are the breadwinners, that is the main issue. Not everyone is the same, but yeah I think that if you aren't going to be a provider, you damn well better step up to the plate in [b]all [/b]other areas. [/quote]

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