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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People are being real a-holes on this thread. You’re all so cool mocking the examples people are sharing. I get it, it’s mentally tiring. No one task is hard. Not at all, but having to think of it all and deal with it can add up. [/quote]

People sharing clearly add up everything they do (I had to wipe my ass today) and discount everything their partner does. Couldn’t be more obvious.[/quote]

Did you know that actual research demonstrate men do less domestic labour?[/quote]

Pfffffft.

My perspective on that -- women ignore or discount anything men do.

My wife thinks I am a selfish pig who only does stuff for myself. [b]She shows no awareness of, or appreciation for, the fact that I schedule (and take kids to) pediatric visits, sport practices and games, music class, birthday parties; pick up kids every day from day care; schedule summer camps well ahead of time; schedule and pay for before/after-care; pay the mortgage; pay the auto insurance and taxes; do our annual taxes; cook dinner for the kids every day; do my own laundry and the kids laundry. [/b]

I believe that if I called all this to her attention, she'd acknowledge it and then quickly go back to her basic attitude that I am a lazy selfish pig.

I also think that if I divorced her, there would be a whole lot of stuff that simply didn't get done, because I wasn't there to do it.[/quote]

Obviously your an anomaly.  We aren’t talking about men like you.  I unfortunately don’t believe you actually do all of these things though.  Very very few men are responsible for scheduling things.  They often forget or do something wrong and the consequences are too great (ex not having childcare).  [/quote]

I think this is the norm. My wife loves to talk about reorganizing the closets or some other make-work task, which is mostly an excuse to watch TV on her iPad while I handle everything for the kids.

It's natural to assume what one does is super difficult and to discount a partner's labor.[/quote]

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